A few days ago I posted on "Family and the Call of God." I emphasized that we must leave family in order to really love God. I used Abraham as an example.
The answer is both. These seemingly irreconcilable commandments culminate and synthesize in the commandment to love God above all other things, especially family. In other words if we love our family members because we love God, if that is truly our motive, then we will leave them in our hearts and love them at the same time. In fact, we will love them more. We will love them because it pleases God, not because we need their relationship. Our love will be disinterested. It will always be for the good of the beloved, not for selfish reasons.
Does this describe how you love your family members? As always your thoughtful responses are welcomed.